*For evidence of the title’s claim, see The Advocate’s Pope Francis “Person of the Year” December 2013 issue.

(They really show once again that they have—at best—a superficial familiarity with Christianity.)

LGBT people and allies are consistently showing that they neither know, nor care to understand, the particulars of essential Christian doctrines, like, say, love (in this case), and sports writer for The Advocate, Annie Hollenbeck, is no exception, unfortunately.  I will probably never know the joy of mischaracterizing and misrepresenting the force and appeal of an opponent’s argument, but that is exactly what Ms. Hollenbeck does from as early as her second paragraph.  But you see, there’s the rub: many of these people—the Leftists, LGBT people and allies, atheists, secularists, humanists, non-theists—don’t think that we actually have any legitimate points on the issue of same-sex marriage (among other things, let’s not forget).

Hey, there I am!  (Not really: It's a joke.  Calm down.)

To them, we are the rough equivalent of white supremacists, neo-Nazis, segregationists, and the rest of their ilk (maybe even all rolled up into one nasty, sludgy pool of bigoted-ness?)—to be tolerated for now, but only because polite society hasn’t yet found the nerve to banish us from its presence like those other, now illegitimate, groups.

Ooh!  Ooooh!  Those are my friends!  Those were the days....
(Another joke.  Calm down.  Yeesh.)

If you don’t believe me, just read The Daily Signal’s recap and analysis of the Twitter exchange between Ryan T. Anderson (a research fellow at the Heritage Foundation and proponent of the conjugal, man-woman view of marriage) and Josh Barro (a writer for The New York Times and proponent of same-sex marriage).  Teaser: he wants us “stamped out.”

Anyway, to the article.  You can read it here.  I will take the title and sub-header to be Ms. Hollenbeck’s thesis of sorts.  It reads: “Hating the Sin Is Hating the Sinner: An executive for the Baltimore Ravens invokes the tired ‘hate the sin, love the sinner’ philosophy, but is that truly Christlike?”

Hmm, are the Ravens homophobic and deserving of our ire?

In a word, yes. Yes, it is in fact extremely Christlike.  In fact, it may just be the most Christlike thing about Christ (next to His being the Son of God, Savior of the world, and the Bread of Life, of course).  Allow me to explain.  You see, Christ came to separate sins from sinners.  That was essentially the whole point of His atoning sacrifice on the Cross.

In the Old Testament, to a certain extent, we saw people lumped together with their sins.  That was why there were prescriptions for stoning, banishments, ritual cleansing ceremonies, etc. for the Israelites, who, last I checked, were indeed sinners just like the rest of humanity, past and future.  The sin was bound up with the sinner, the actor, and there was just no way to separate the two—not yet anyway.

When Christ came, His sacrifice acted as a kind of “reverse epoxy” (as Peter Kreeft puts it): We could now repent, and be truly forgiven, as Christ covered our infinite debt to the Father.  He now pleads eternally before the Father, advocating on our behalf and displaying His wounds as a never-ending display of love and fidelity to us, thereby placating the Father’s just judgment.

So yes, Ms. Hollenbeck.  Loving the sinner but hating the sin is Christlike.  Sorry to rain on your parade.  Now, to the rest of the op-ed.

She is definitely correct when she writes, “you simply will find no instance where Jesus Christ looks a gay person in the eye and tells him that he is going to hell.”  Hell, I agree 110% with that statement (play on words most definitely intended).  But I am confused when she writes (not even one sentence earlier): “As a Christian, I am floored when I hear people like Swayne claiming that while they are taught to love and accept everyone, Jesus Christ teaches against homosexuality.”  Why is this hard to believe, exactly?

Christ elevated marriage to the level of sacrament: an indissoluble union recognized by God as binding on both parties involved for all time.  And Christ confirms the reality of the union as orthodox Christians now understand it when He says, “Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female’ … ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?”

It would seem that Ms. Hollenbeck is attempting to make a case from Jesus’ silence on the issue of same-sex marriage.  “Since Jesus never preached against homosexual unions,” her reasoning goes, “he must be in support of them, or at the very least, neutral toward them.”  Well, Jesus never spoke out against genocide or racism, but I am confident that Ms. Hollenbeck would say that Jesus would not support those particulars ills.  And one has to wonder if Ms. Hollenbeck has ever considered the reality that Jesus likely never spoke out against same-sex marriage because it was just so radical and unrealistic—both politically and morally—that it just never crossed His mind to explicitly condemn it—it was just understood implicitly as being out of the question.

A parallel example might look something like this: Jesus’ explicit condemnation of same-sex marriage would be like a cultural elite or politician today condemning traditional slavery in America.  No one is seriously advocating for it; if they are, they are not taken seriously; it is most definitely not being practiced; and it has no real chance of making a comeback (as far as I can tell, though I could be wrong).  Essentially, it is so far removed from reality that if, say, a 2016 presidential candidate called for us as a nation to never again own slaves (in the sense of pre-Civil War America), we would rightly ask if s/he needed his/her head checked.  I can see it now.  Aide: “Maybe some water and shade will do you good Mr./Ms. Candidate?  It is awfully warm out here,” as he dials for a psychiatrist.

The rest of the op-ed consists of thinly veiled attacks upon Christianity and intimations that faith and religion should just be private endeavors and/or something that you leave at the door of the church, synagogue, or mosque when you leave there at 10 am—“Swayne is more than entitled to his opinion, and he has the right to practice his faith as he sees fit.  However, considering the times, and particularly the state of affairs this season with Michael Sam in the NFL, this message isn’t as innocuous as Swayne and others may try to claim it is.”  Because, really, enlightened society is clearly not in your favor; how can you bear to be so in the minority and actually live out your faith considering “the times” (whatever the heck that means)?  That’s so passé!  So 12^th century!  Basically, you are entitled to your opinion and can live out your religious faith and convictions… except where it matters: in the public square.  Because, really, you’re making a scene and upsetting the children.

Next up, the conflation of homosexuality and homosexual acts: “Being gay isn’t something you do.  It’s something you are.”  Here, she seems to imply that being gay is one and the same as acting on those impulses, as if gays and lesbians must act upon them—that they have absolutely no say in the matter.  Not only does Ms. Hollenbeck imply that these people have no self-control, but she also makes a critical error: Christians do not oppose gays, never have, in fact.  What we are opposed to are homosexual acts, based upon natural law theory, a 2,500 year-old tradition of thought (ctrl/Command+F “2,500” for the tweet in question) and philosophy stretching all the way back to Sts. Augustine and Aquinas, running through such titans as Plato, Aristotle, Cicero, Locke, and Kant, and, recently, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.  Disagree with the theory or the thinkers’ employment of it if you so choose, but don’t insinuate that we don’t love gay people as a way to take the moral high ground, Ms. Hollenbeck.  Thank you, from Christians everywhere.

Ms. Hollenbeck ends her op-ed with a reference to St. Paul’s description of love and a sobering observation: “‘Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.’  You may love the homosexuals, Mr. Swayne, but love with judgment isn’t love at all.”

The man himself, ready to boss it up.

Here’s the problem: I would assume that she is appealing specifically to the “does not dishonor others” bit of that passage in order to vindicate active homosexuals in their pursuit of marital and moral “equality”/liberation and simultaneously disparage Christians who make life so difficult for these people by telling them what they think about their future goals.  That’s all well and good, except that Christians do no such thing when they express the truth about human sexuality and its purpose, ordered toward married life.  Telling people the truth is part of loving them, Ms. Hollenbeck; lying to them to keep them comfortable while they do what is contrary to the moral order is not.

As for her final pronouncement, I would argue that love minus judgment is not only anti-love but that for love to be true, it necessitates that judgment be involved.  Judgment is simply discrimination (selection and preference, not hate) among ideas, actions, and persons.  If I love you, I will tell you when I believe that you are acting contrary to good sense and upright moral behavior.

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If I could but etch in stone one of the most prominent, yet unspoken,
mores of our age, this would be it.

I’m always on the lookout for new and provocative content to read.  I like to keep abreast of the vast number of moral and social issues that emerge in our world.  This incredibly interesting article that I stumbled upon recently had an interesting biological perspective on pregnancy, an interesting look into sociological factors contributing to society’s changing mores regarding pregnancy, and interesting and important moral components as well: all components integral to the functioning of our world at large as well as for my enjoyment of a piece.

The article talks about how women are attempting to “beat biology”—their biological clocks in regard to their fertility—by freezing their eggs so that they can become mothers later in life: an interesting concept for sure and one with many dimensions.  The first that springs to my mind is the moral dimension and the practice’s obvious flaw: it is deeply offensive to and beneath human dignity.

The eggs will need to be thawed out, and the impregnation process will require in vitro fertilization, a practice the Church condemns.  The action is contrary to natural law, for it separates the gift of husband and wife, sex, from the natural fruit of the act, a child.  A child is created, yes, though not in an intimate exchange of total, self-giving love, but in an economic transaction.

It prompted thought about our world’s perception of pregnancy, motherhood, and family.  That women feel the need to advance their careers at the expense of a fulfilling family life because of a so-called “pressure” is shameful.  The feminism of yore and in our own day has degraded the mystical quality of femininity and swapped it out for a cheap view of woman as an organism that must choose between society and family—children or success in the workplace.  Oftentimes, however, the choice is framed so negatively against domestic life and motherhood that these incredibly fulfilling options are shunned outright, though perhaps chosen begrudgingly—as a mere after-thought—if they are ever chosen at all, that is.

Perhaps one of the greatest joys of this life.

It is indeed a testament to the branding power of this movement—as well as the incredible fumble by Catholic leadership for the last several decades—that this procedure is quickly gaining credibility.

I will not be discussing the moral, social, or political factors as they relate to this procedure; rather, I would like to make a simple connection between the growing legitimacy of this procedure and our everyday lives—what this procedure says about us as a society and as people, more simply.

Fact of the matter?  We are paralyzed by indecision.  Our modern world offers so many enticements and pleasures and distractions and whatnot that, in the pursuit of “keeping our options open,” we never actually make a single meaningful decision.  We are not decisive.  We are wishy-washy and weak.  Don’t get me wrong: I’m all for keeping my options open as much as the next guy.  What I am not for, however, is a society that so praises and enshrines and validates keeping our options open—of living in a potential state, rather than in a determined and convicted state—an actual state—that we never actually shape our lives and destinies.  We live in a dimly real present, saturated with visions of future pleasures and advancements and improvements.  We live passively, and, in waiting for, as the first article says, “Mr. Right” to come along, we lose our nerve, our grit, or whatever you want to call it, to actually do something meaningful.

I keep hearing that he may fit the bill, but I don't know to be honest.

We freeze our eggs, waiting for the “perfect moment” in which to take the plunge of motherhood, fatherhood, parenthood. We live in extended adolescences, never truly rising to the occasion of our destiny to be providers and nurturers—adults. We cohabitate, a fanciful euphemism for “extended dating,” never biting the bullet (so to speak) of finally admitting that this person is “the one.” We contracept away our most fruitful child-bearing years, in favor of frivolous, and, ultimately, unfulfilling sex. We abort away our futures willy-nilly because we cannot face the fact that our actions (sex) have consequences (babies and diapers and formula).

As Pope Francis said to a crowd of millions of young people while in Rio de Janeiro for the World Youth Day 2013: “I am asking you to rebel against this culture that sees everything as temporary and that ultimately believes that you are incapable of responsibility (emphasis mine).”

Now, what does authentic Catholic Christianity have to do with this shameful paralysis of our culture, of our world?  A paralysis so gripping it threatens to destroy everything it touches? It means living with conviction! With purpose, with drive, with that mystical something that changes potentiality to actuality, inaction to action, fear of acting and messing up to courage in the face of doubts about the outcome of our actions. In essence, indecision and the endless trope of “keeping our options open” and “waiting for something better to come along” are incompatible with an authentic Catholic life.

Look to the Apostles, the early Church Fathers, the martyrs, the saints, our recent popes: all are men and women of conviction, of resolve, of determination, of grit, of action!  They see the will of God, and they do it.  Sure they are afraid, or feel that they are unworthy, and yes, even they hesitated, but they ultimately acted, and when they acted, they acted decisively.  They saw the goal, and when they had brought themselves to act, it was with purpose, with a single-minded dogmatism that is one of the most glorious attributes of a true Catholic.  The ability to pursue any number of tasks, all for a single end—the further glorification of God Almighty—is a characteristic of the greatest men and women of the Church.

But no: our culture praises the floater, the one who can do all things at all times because he has never chosen anything to the exclusion of anything else.  He has never started to truly live!  We are creatures of potential.  We are always moving from one state to another.  We are either advancing or falling back, improving or devolving—this is our nature.  As such, choices must be made, otherwise, we do not truly live and reach our goal.  And what is our goal, ultimately?  To reach God!  To come to the Beatific Vision in fulfillment of all of our desires.  We are to be partakers in the divine nature, to return home to our Father and His Son, Christ Jesus.

Trust me; this picture doesn't do Heaven justice at all.

So get out there people! Live with fire! Run reckless through life and make decisions as if your eternal futures depended on it—because they do! Because as St. Augustine said “Love God and do whatever you please: for the soul trained in love to God will do nothing to offend the One who is Beloved,” and as Christ says in Revelation 3:16, “So, because you are lukewarm, neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth.”

A wispy, weak, and undisciplined will is our worst enemy.

tl;dr Carpe Diem!

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